I’ve been vegan for almost 7 years now (and vegetarian for 1 year before that) and my extended family still doesn’t get it and they don’t consider that I too might want to eat during a family dinner/thanksgiving. anyway my aunt who lives 12+ hrs away decided she’s going to come over with our extended family and she planned our thanksgiving for us by getting food catered to a local hotel  and I’m apparently expected to bring my own food to a random hotel instead of eating in my house where I live even though they’re all traveling hundreds of miles to be here. like, I don’t expect others to accommodate me just because but it flat-out makes me not want to eat with them again in these situations and i’m not obligated to feel satisfied or happy about being uprooted from my house and food that I can eat to spend time in a random hotel with my aunt who doesn’t care if I eat or not